Several years ago, we were at a formal event with Shahin’s job and the evening was winding down. The commander and his wife invited a few of the subordinate leaders and their spouses (including us) to come back to their place for some continued fellowship, so we headed over to their place. And as typically happens, the guys gathered around the commander and quickly got into a conversation of their own, while the wives hung out with the commander’s wife in an adjacent room and